7 Things No One Tells You About Planning a Lesbian Wedding

So, as you may have noticed, gay weddings have been getting a lot of attention lately, and for good reason. With increasing frequency, many states across the U.S. are legalizing gay marriage, and the recent repeal of DOMA requires all fifty states to recognize those marriages. *shoots confetti gun*

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My own totally gay wedding was quite timely if I do say so myself, coming just a few months after DOMA got clotheslined this past June. My wife and I were also fortunate to live in New York, where getting gay-married has been legal since 2011. And while I certainly was never the type to plan out my future wedding in binders with color-coded sections, I did want to have a ceremony and a reception in a fairly traditional manner (with a healthy dose of Brooklyn flair, of course). As it turns out, planning a big gay wedding shares many of the same hurdles as planning a straight wedding, but it can also carry a few unique experiences all its own. So, without further ado, I present to you: Seven Important Things To Know About Planning a Lesbian Wedding.

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1. It still costs so much fucking money.

Spoiler Alert: Your lesbian wedding will still cost you all the money you have and then some unless you are getting married in a field of wildflowers owned by your grandfather and serving water and toast points. From the food to the drinks to the clothing to the décor and aaaaaall the many things that you’ll never think of until the bill comes, planning a giant gay love party (aka a wedding) can put a serious dent in your bank account. Also, if we are going to talk about really traditional weddings, I am pretty sure the parents of the bride are supposed to pay, in which case good luck figuring that one out.

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But here’s a fun thing for us big gayballs: Some vendors might just give you a discount for being totally gay. You think I’m kidding, right? I, too, thought the manager at Brooklyn’s Baked was kidding when he looked my future wife and I in the eyes and told us our cupcake order would be receiving a “same-sex discount” of 10 percent. Turns out some businesses are so excited by the newly passed laws of equality in this country that they want to celebrate right along with us. I’LL TAKE IT.

Read the rest of the article at Cosmopolitan.com