Porn Addiction and Women

Do Women Even Look at Porn?

It’s no secret that the Internet is bursting at the seams with pornography, and lots of people are looking at it. For instance,research conducted in 2009 and 2010 by neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam analyzed 400 million Internet searches (representing more than 2 million people), finding that approximately 55 million of those searches (13%) sought some form of erotic content. And this analysis didn’t include the countless people who surf for nudie pics and vids on social media sites, dating sites, hookup apps and the like.

Moreover, the amount and variety of porn that’s available has increased exponentially since Ogas and Gaddam conducted their study. So it’s hardly a surprise that porn addiction is now the most common form of sexual addiction. In fact, almost all self-identified sex addicts now list compulsive porn use as one of their primary problems. If you don’t believe me, go sit in on a few “open” 12-step sexual recovery meetings and listen to the shares. (“Open” 12-step meetings are groups in which you don’t have to self-identify as addicted.)

Of course, porn is a guy thing, right? And porn addicts are all men, right? Women are too smart, personal, and genuine to get turned on by and hooked on something as base and gross as porn, right? Or so the thinking sometimes goes. And the thinking is not entirely wrong. It’s just not entirely right, either.

The simple truth is that women do search for erotic content online, they just tend to search for different erotic content than men. For instance, according to Ogas and Gaddam the five most popular sites among men are Pornhub.com, RedTube.com, Xhamster.com, YouPorn.com, and XNXX.com – all of which are adult video sites. Meanwhile, the five most popular sites among women are FanFiction.net (a story site), StephanieMyers.com (a romance author fan site), eHarlequin.com (a romance novel fan site), AdultFanFiction.com (an adult story site), and ForTheGirls.com (an adult video site).

So it’s pretty clear that men want to watch sex, while women want to read about, write about, and discuss sexual relationships. In other words, male porn is all about objectified body parts and graphic sexual activity, while female porn is all about the intimate connection between two people. This is why guys want to watch “Debbie Does Dallas” and women want to read Fifty Shades of Grey. But it’s porn either way. After all, the sex is just as prevalent and just as graphic in Fifty Shades as a typical porn flick. The only real difference is that the characters in Fifty Shades develop an emotional bond (a romantic relationship) over the course of the story, while porn for men tends to ignore that aspect. And we should not overlook the fact that the #5 site for women is, in fact, a hardcore video site, indicating that plenty of women are into that just as much as men are.

So yeah, lots of women do look at porn, even if it’s not always the same porn that men use.

Read the full article at Psychcentral