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By Natalie Keegan,

A new survey has asked men and women how long they would ideally like their time in the bedroom to last for. And then it has revealed how long sex lasts in reality.

This is how long the average sex session lasts across the globe.

A new survey of 3836 people has revealed exactly how long men of different ages “last” in the sack — as well as how long women would like sex to go on for.

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Sometimes, it’s the smallest things that make the biggest impact.

Do you have a friend of the opposite sex that you regularly share personal jokes with? Do you tag each other regularly on social media? Do you dress a little nicer when you know you’re going to see him or her? If any of these questions produced a “yes,” then you might be heading down the slippery slope of micro-cheating.

This year, we launched our first podcast, “My First Time,” focusing on all the “firsts” we encounter in our sex lives. Catch up on all our past episodes here.

When the words “my first time” pops into your head, you probably think of losing your virginity. But let’s face it: In a world where teens make jokes about eating ass and artists are creating Instagram sexbots for millennials, the concept of traditional virginity is starting to feel a little fusty and old-fashioned.

By Lindsay Tigar,

How Solo Time Could Be Making Your Love Life Worse.

Though many people still feel shame when it comes to masturbation — either in doing it, or in discussing it, or both — it’s actually a very normal and healthy part of human sexuality. In addition to being a stress reliever, masturbation can also educate you on your preferences, your unique pleasure zones and the various strokes, pressures, sensations and masturbation techniques that you’ll enjoy the most.

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Every therapist encounters, at least occasionally, a client seeking help with sexual issues of one ilk or another. Typically, these individuals are either overtly or covertly worried about too much sex, not enough sex, no sex, strange sex, addictive sex, cheating sex, bad sex (whatever “bad” means), etc. Sometimes these concerns are their primary presenting issue, but usually not. More often, sexual issues lurk in the background, hiding behind depression, anxiety, fear of rejection, shame, and similar problems. In such cases, a client’s sexual concerns might only come to light while exploring the client’s self-esteem, failed relationships, substance abuse, unresolved early-life trauma, mood disorders, etc.


We all have our dirty little secrets, but the celebrities who so often live their lives in the limelight don’t always have the same benefit. Indeed, due to our culture’s constant fascination with the lifestyles of the rich and famous, we’ve learned more about these A-listers than we may know about our closest friends. That is, we sure know a lot about their sex lives.


“Orgasms are like grains of sand; no two are exactly alike.”—Annie Sprinkle

When we think of orgasms, we think of the quick tension and release kind that occur in the genitals which require direct stimulation. But, the in the world of orgasmic pleasure, there are many types of orgasms!

Pioneer sexologist Annie Sprinkle says that there are seven types of female orgasms including Breath and Energy Orgasms. Energy orgasms are a type of “hands-free” orgasm which doesn’t require direct genital stimulation. Instead, you “think” yourself off.


How many of these have you heard before? Ken Page has antidotes for these toxic half-truths.

Beneath the glitz of much dating advice lies a cynical reverence for the power of packaging and promotion: “Women, be a vixen. Men, learn to seduce. Everyone keep your partner guessing. Lose weight. Be confident. Get out there more.” At the end of the day, this approach doesn’t lead to love. It leads to insecurity and desperation. Luckily, there is a wiser way.


In his book, How to Break Your Addiction to a Person, Howard Halpern first explains what an addictive relationship is, then gives guidelines for recognizing if you’re involved in one. Then, he offers several techniques on how to end an unhealthy relationship (or an emotional affair).

I’ve compiled and adapted all of his suggestions into the following dozen techniques, excerpting what I found to be the most important passages for each.


During the first few months of a relationship, a couple can usually be found in one of two places: her bedroom or his. And for good reason: During that delicious early phase of dating, the sex is ultra-new, ultra-frequent, and in many cases, ultrahot.

But the searing level of heat is bound to begin to cool at some point. The initial rush of hormones calms down and when that shift happens, it’s hard not to be bummed. Thankfully, it’s not a sign that the chemistry has evaporated – just a reminder that to keep your lust life scorching long term, you have to expend a little erotic energy. Here is my erotic advice on how to behave like a true alpha male and keep the passion ignited continuously.