10 Marriage & Relationship Busters

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No relationship is perfect and problem-free.

It’s clear that all marriages take work, commitment, and effective communication of needs, expectations, and desires. Marriage isn’t hard necessarily, but it becomes harder when people “go stupid.” Essentially, when one or both partners behave out of anger, anxiety, hurt, defensiveness, or maliciousness, the problems escalate quickly.

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Overall, there are common issues in most marriages where conflict is higher: 

One partner is trying to change the other.

The more one partner tries to “perfect” the other, the less perfect that person will become as the struggles grow. The truth is that the best you can do is change who you are, your approach to the relationship, and how you respond to your partner. After all, you married them for who they are, right?

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Talking at – as opposed to talking with – your partner.

Simply talking does not translate into effective communication. Constant complaints, repeated criticisms, playing the victim, trying to create guilt, yelling, telling your partner what to do, etc., are not communication openers. At best, they are communication roadblocks and barriers. Listening (i.e., being present to the other) and speaking with intent are two of the deepest forms of intimacy in any relationship.

Loss or decrease in emotional and sexual intimacy.

A partner who is emotionally absent, disengaged, and not caring or concerned can lead to a drop in emotional and sexual intimacy.

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Loss of focus and awareness or being mindful of your partner

All of the above can happen due to issues with finances, in-laws, a newborn, work pressures, and a mental health condition or addiction can lead to emotional distancing and loss of connection.

Read the full article on PsychCentral