Anal sex might sound intimidating to some, but it’s definitely worth exploring or at least being open-minded about. Why? You may even learn that you can orgasm from butt play. Penetrative anal sex is especially great for hitting the A-spot, which can result in intense Os for some being such a pressure-sensitive area.
If you and your partner are considering trying anal sex for the very first time, know that it can be difficult to nail it on a whim. As hot as it’d be to try in the heat of the moment (and succeed), it takes patience and practice and oftentimes requires a whole lot of preparation. Your anus is a much tighter opening that doesn’t self-lubricate, which means you’ll need some supplies to make it more pleasurable than painful. To make the process as smooth as possible, I asked the founder of b-Vibe anal products, Alicia Sinclair, for some beginner tips to consider before your first time delving into the world of anal play. Here are seven ways to help you get started, straight from the sex expert herself
1. Get your brain on board.
“There is a lot of misinformation, taboo, and stereotypes that can confuse and cause fear. And what’s the first thing your body (and butt) does when you’re scared? It tightens up. Which is no way to welcome in a penetrative object. Being mentally relaxed, well-educated, and consensually excited to try anal is essential.”
2. Get to know your booty first.
“Before partners get involved, go it alone. Massage the outside of your anus and maybe even dip the tip of your finger in your own bum while you’re alone in the shower.”
3. Toy with it.
“A small vibrating butt plug, like our Novice Plug, is a great option because it’s about the size of a finger and is a good transition from fingers to toys. If you’re already past fingers and want something slightly larger, try our Trio Plug, which is a medium-sized, flexible plug that offers incredibly powerful vibration.