By Jamie Kravitz,
Some moms are very open about discussing sex with their daughters, while others are more reserved when it comes to this sometimes touchy subject. Over the course of your mom’s lifetime, the way American society views sex has changed: the invention of the Pill ushered in the sexual revolution, the AIDS epidemic hammered home the importance of safe sex, and the rise of online dating and dating apps has changed the way people get together. Whatever your mom’s advice on sex may be, it’s worth listening to. Sure, dating was different in a lot of ways when she was younger — but a lot has stayed the same, especially when it comes to hooking up.
If you’re unsure how to talk to your mom about sex, you’re definitely not alone. No matter how close you two are, it can be an awkward topic to broach. It’s true, your gynecologist can explain the technical and medical ins and outs of sex. Believe it or not, though, it’s likely that your mom possesses some important knowledge that your gyno can’t share with you.
Take it from these moms: your comfort and safety are top priorities, consent is key, and you should always use protection. Plus, your mom will never judge you — more than anything, she probably wants to keep an open conversation with you. Talking about sex with your mom or another mother figure in your life will only bring you closer together. And once you get past the initial awkwardness, your mom’s outlook on sex might actually be a pleasant surprise. You’ll never know for sure until you ask. Here’s the best sex advice that seven moms have to share.
1. If you do choose to have sex, make sure it is on your own terms.
If you’re going to have sex, do it on your terms, when you want, and don’t get pressured.
— Audrey, 53