9 Essentials for Giving the Best Cunnilingus of Your Life.

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By Kelly McDonnell-Arnold,

As a sexologist, I am often asked for some quick tips for heightened intimacy and pleasure-filled sex.

It can be easy and more comfortable to stick to our daily routines, especially while juggling parenthood, work life, relationships, and more.

However, it is important to slow down and take the time to focus on inviting more pleasure into our lives. Oral sex can be one of the most beautiful expressions of intimacy, desire, and love for a partner or lover. That’s why I am sharing my nine commandments for mind-blowing cunnilingus.

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Before we get to the, ahem, juicy tips, let’s review a definition. In case you’re overwhelmed, simplifying the act will make it feel much more approachable:

Cunnilingus: Stimulation of the female genitals using the tongue or lips.
See also, “eating pussy,” “eating her out,” “going down on her.” 

Whatever you call it—whether you’ve never done it before or you already consider yourself a master of flicking your tongue—let’s simplify the act with some straight from the hips advice on giving delightful cunnilingus. Even if you’re confident about giving oral pleasure, you may be curious to learn some new tricks on how to give her the best eating of her life.

Read also: Turbocharged Oral Sex!

Lovers of women, enjoy.

1. Create a powerful connection.

You can blow her mind with your mouth, but the most important aspect of any sex act is the connection between the two (or more) of you. If you and your partner feel intimate together, she’ll feel safe to lay back, let go, and enjoy the pleasure of sex with you.

Focus on creating trust and a place for honest communication, and you’ll set the stage for more pleasurable sex. The more we work on strengthening our communication, the better everything will be—including oral sex!

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2. Find out how she feels before you dive in.

We probably (hopefully) don’t need to establish that her consent is required—but, yeah, consent is non-negotiable.

Before you dive in, ahem, head first, does she actually want you to? This is when our powerful connection and communication skills come in handy. Does she enjoy oral sex? Has she had a few bad pussy-eating experiences? Does it make her feel extremely vulnerable, and are you okay with being gentle with her vulnerability?

These are all essential things to consider. To find out how she feels, you don’t need to bring it up over an expensive dinner at a fancy restaurant. While you’re kissing and fondling each other, you could say that you’d love to taste her and notice her reaction. More moaning or her pressing her hips into you is probably a good indicator that you’ve got the green light to go down.

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Keep in mind that some women might be uncomfortable with the thought of you seeing their vulva and vagina up close. She may just need a little reassurance from you that you really want to do it—and enjoy it. This might be just the reassurance she needs to help her relax into the experience.

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