By Ana C. Pascual for Female Network,

Is it still worth it?

You’ve probably heard the phrase, “once a cheater, always a cheater” – and because of it, you’ve most likely been cynical about people who have gone astray. But according to experts, if you turn your back on people who have cheated on their partners, you are underestimating their ability to change.

“People who say a cheater can’t change have never felt the awful guilt that comes when you realize you’ve made a terrible mistake by having a one-night stand or an affair,” says Tammy Nelson, a couples therapist and the author of The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity.

Relationships can be one of the most pleasurable things on the planet… but they can also be a breeding ground for anxious thoughts and feelings. Relationship anxiety can arise at pretty much any stage of courtship. For many single people, just the thought of being in a relationship can stir up stress. If and when people do start dating, the early stages can present them with endless worries: “Does he/she really like me?” “Will this work out?” “How serious is this?” Unfortunately, these worries don’t tend to subside in the later stages of a romantic union. In fact, as things get closer between a couple, anxiety can get even more intense. Thoughts come flooding in like: “Can this last?” “Do I really like him/her?” “Should we slow down?” “Am I really ready for this kind of commitment?” “Is he/she losing interest?”

By Gabrielle Moore,

“The world is little, people are little, human life is little. There is only one big thing — desire.”  Willa Cather

I just finished chatting with a girlfriend of mine who was complaining about her her lack of sexual desire in her relationship. She has been with the same guy for the last 15 years. She is still in love with him and she’s still attracted to him, but she just doesn’t feel like having sex. Not just with him, but with anyone. Her husband, on the other hand? He still wants to have sex on a regular basis and it’s been a problem in their relationship for a long time. She’s come to a point where she just doesn’t know what to do about it anymore.

The common misconception that intimacy is directly related to sex has gone on for far too long. While the two are surely related to one another, they do not define each other. An intimate relationship doesn’t necessarily qualify as one where the couple has sex often. Intimacy refers to maintaining a close personal bond with someone. In order to achieve this bond i.e. have an intimate relationship, a couple has to go through a whole process. This process is governed by several steps, not just one.

1- They talk A LOT:

When two people develop strong feelings for one another and reach a point where they’re ready to let them into each other’s lives, they form a relationship. The very foundation of any genuine relationship is love, which is as intimate as it gets.

The love at the start of the relationship is usually way more than at the end. So, a newly formed relationship might seem more intimate. The reason is that in the start people talk to one another. They like knowing about all the details of each other’s lives. They communicate about feelings and issues. They keep their bond strong by developing more and more love for their partner. Later on, people tend to get bored and the relationship eventually diminishes.

By  for Dude Comedy,

Nothing like coming home to surprise your girl, only to catch her in bed with some other dude. It reminds me of the scene from Old School: “I’m here for the gangbang”

This is every dude’s biggest fear, walking up to the door just to see some other dick… And I don’t mean dick like “this person is a dick”

A guy named Chris went back to his hometown to surprise his girlfriend during summer break. He showed up and saw another dude laying in bed with her.

By Robert L. Leahy Ph.D.,

Jealousy is a killer. Relationships end because of jealous conflicts and people kill other people because they are jealous.

Imagine this. You are at a party and someone is friendly and you smile. Your partner thinks that you are betraying her. Or your partner tells you a funny story about a former lover and you feel threatened. You feel the anger and the anxiety rising inside you and you don’t know what to do.

Susan could identify with this. She would glare at her partner, trying to send him a “message” that she was really annoyed and hurt. She hoped he would get the message. At times she would withdraw into pouting, hoping to punish him for showing an interest in someone else. But it didn’t work. He just felt confused.

Love is probably the most powerful emotion possible, and when you start to experience anxiety over that love, it’s not uncommon for it to have a profound impact both on your relationship and on your quality of life. Relationship anxiety is complicated and means different things to different people, but there is no denying that once you have it, you’ll do anything you can to stop it.
So many things can cause anxiety in relationships, and often that anxiety differs depending on what brought it on. Abusive relationships cause anxiety for reasons that are completely different than those that develop anxiety because of problems raising children. Make sure you take my free 7 minute anxiety test to learn more about your anxiety and how to cope with it.

By George Harrison,

IF you’ve ever wondered what it would be like to date a sex worker, then a group of men who do just that have answered all your questions for you.

Men took to Reddit to discuss what it’s like to have a partner who sells her body, with some commenters put off by the idea — and others claiming that sex workers make the best girlfriends.

Being in a relationship with a sex worker can create jealousy issues for some fellas, but other men claim that there’s no reason why women working in the world’s oldest profession are any different to be with.

By Dana Norris,

Dear Dana,

In a recent game of “I have never” with a group of friends, I discovered that my girlfriend once had a threesome with two strangers. I never like to ask about someone’s past, I don’t think it’s really relevant in a current relationship. But my girlfriend explained to me that she went out with a guy and when they went back to his place, his flatmate was there so she had sex with both men. I find this quite gross, to be honest, and I have been suppressing it for some time. The issue is that when I am drunk or when we have an argument, I keep calling her the “s” word. I hate using the word and I hate berating her, and I have never done this before. This is driving her away and I do love her dearly—is it normal for me to react in this way?

By Susan Krauss Whitbourne Ph.D,

New research on the best way to achieve “balanced authenticity”.

Do you feel that you can truly be yourself with your partner, or are you always hiding something? Do you fear that if your partner knew what was going on in all corners of your mind that your relationship would end?

One of the most frequently quoted lines from Shakespeare’s Hamlet is uttered by the somewhat laughable (though tragic) character Polonius: “This above all: to thine own self be true.” New research from Yi Nan Wang at Beijing Normal University shows that this advice is wise, but that being true to yourself shouldn’t come at the cost of stepping over your partner’s needs. Showing your true self can, in some cases, mean expressing views that your partner would find offensive or upsetting. In balanced authenticity, you reach that optimal level of taking the feelings of your partner into account while still allowing your true self to shine through.

By Gabrielle Moore,

“Kinky is using a feather. Perverted is using the whole chicken.”

When you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, it’s easy for things to become routine, including your sex life. If things have gotten a bit ho-hum, then the chances are good that your partner feels the same way. Maybe it’s time for something new!

Not all of these ideas will appeal to everyone. Broach the subject with your partner and see what she thinks. If she’s reluctant, suggest you try a few things at least once. She might surprise you, and she might be surprised at the powerful orgasms she experiences.