How to Keep a Marriage Sexy-ish

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Some advice from a sex therapist who’s helped couples for more than two decades.

In theory, the sex lives of modern couples should be a nonstop pleasure paradise. Attitudes about sex and sexuality have relaxed around the world and the Internet has made every kind of stimulation available and deliverable right to your screen or doorstep.

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But the truth is, even in the 21st century, couples are still finding themselves in a sexual rut. And, while the classic married couple scenario has the perpetually horny husband begging for a quickie from a headache-besieged wife, these days, things are a bit different.

“I see many couples these days where she wants more sex than he does,” says Dr. Stephen Snyder, a New York-based sex therapist and the author of Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship. “Or where she still has desire, but he’s gone missing in bed.” how-to-spice-up-your-marriageYou might also enjoy: 11 Sex Moves That Women Crave… But Ask Before You Try #4

Dr. Snyder has been practicing sex and relationship therapy for more than 25 years and has seen the shift take place. He notes that the stresses of modern living — inability to detach from work, financial troubles, overstimulation — are often the catalyst for a breakdown in a couple’s sex life.
“Usually it’s that something has gone wrong emotionally in their relationship,” he says. “Often they’ve gotten into a vicious cycle where he’s withdrawn from — because that’s what men mostly do under stress.” Criticism, per Synder, undoubtedly comes into play and that continues the pattern. 
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Another interesting fact that Snyder points out that the shift in gender roles in modern society, as well as a change in the expectations placed on both men and women, have complicated matters. 
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