By Simone Paget,

Being a sex and relationship expert means you get a lot of questions.

Just ask Dr. Lexx James, the founder of The Institute for Sexuality and Intimacy.

“As a sexologist and a marriage and family therapist, I find I get bombarded with questions,” she says. But it seems what people ask and what they’re really curious about aren’t always the same thing, explains James.


Hi, I’ m a man, and I’ve faked orgasms. I’ve put my scrunched-up, communing-with-the-universe, pleasure-stoked little O-face on when in fact I was feeling nothing. I have closed my eyes and groaned like a wildebeest. I’ve even thrown in a few twitchy little shakes at the end like there’s a loose live wire opping around inside me. I’m not much of an actor, but it’s not a tough thing to pull off. How, exactly? you may be wondering.

By Anya

I am certain that if you are anything like me and your best friend is about to marry, you will spend lots of time trying to brainstorm bachelorette party ideas.[Tweet ” Organizing an original and memorable hen’s night it is not a simple task, so leaving yourself enough time is important.”]

Bachelorette parties have existed for many years, and over time they have become more and more sophisticated – today there are many options as to how to celebrate this rite of passage. The friends of the bride are always in search of the most original ideas to surprise her. That’s why we decided to put together some interesting suggestions for that special party:

Much of courtship and mating is choreographed by nature. In fact, nature designed men and women to work together.

In an apocryphal story, a colleague once turned to the great British geneticist J.B.S. Haldane, and said, “Tell me, Mr. Haldane, knowing what you do about nature, what can you tell me about God?” Haldane replied, “He has an inordinate fondness for beetles.” Indeed, the world contains over 300,000 species of beetles. I would add that “God” loves the human mating game, for no other aspect of our behavior is so complex, so subtle, or so pervasive.

Microsoft: When Cortana launched in 2014, many early queries were about her sex life.

All virtual assistants have to deal with inappropriate comments and questions. From seasoned vets like Siri and Google Now, to the rash of new specialists with names like Amy, Molly, Mia and Robin.

When Microsoft launched Cortana in 2014, a good chunk of early queries were about her sex life, according to Microsoft’s Deborah Harrison.

By Sophie Saint Thomas

Weed makes me horny. I used to think it was because I’ve dated so many stoners that I’ve just trained myself to associate the skunky smell with sex, but it turns out there might be some science behind it. The right strain can help you feel more relaxed, sensual, and connected to your partner, which is great for an anxious nutcase like me. So, when I spoke with Dr. Julie Holland, author of the must-read Moody Bitches: The Truth About the Drugs You’re Taking, the Sleep You’re Missing, the Sex You’re Not Having and What’s Really Making You Crazy, I was shocked and saddened to learn that a side effect of smoking marijuana can be a dry vagina.

Sometimes a couple’s interests don’t totally match up. One of you likes model trains while the other would rather crochet sweaters for the cat; one partner aspires to trek the length of the Appalachian Trail while the other’s idea of an ideal evening involves a large plate of barbecue, a half-ounce of high-quality weed, and a Fast and Furious marathon. This is all fine and relatively easy to sort out within the bounds of a healthy long-term relationship, but when the different interests are of a bedroom nature the negotiations can get complicated.